Be Specific
Try this out the next time you go to McDonald’s: be super-kind to the drive-thru employee and/or cashier. You can pretty much get an extra anything (except for an extra burger) if you say your pleases and thank yous. But if you’re having a bad day and want to take it out on the poor employee who makes minimum wage, you’re going to have a bad time.
Whenever rude customers would ask for extra sauce, the OP would make sure to give it to them… in the form of extra pancake syrup. You have to be more specific when asking for sauces, Karen!