Second cousin Margaret
Parents are weird about weddings. I don’t know if it’s because their parents did the same to them and they’re just going with the flow, or whether there’s some deep-seated primal need to make their mark on every occasion. Everyone I know who’s planned a wedding has the same story about the epic guest list they were given by their parents.
If you want a small wedding, then you better get ready for the showdown with your in-laws over why Great Aunt Susan (who you’ve never spoken to in your life) won’t be making the cut, or who is going to tell your mom’s bridge partner that there just isn’t room in the budget for her to come along. As I said, parents are weird about weddings.