Control Issues
Some people are shockingly good at hiding their true nature and core beliefs. The OP only realized that her to-be husband was a closeted misogynist while they were having a discussion about their future a few days before their impending wedding.
Apparently, he expected her to have kids, be a stay-at-home mom, and support his dreams of becoming an actor. What would he do? Make all the rules that he expected her to follow without saying a word. Well, it’s a good thing he showed his true colors in time for the OP to say “Thanks, but no thanks.”