#19: Make it Look Like Your Idea
If it feels to you like most of your relationships are just a series of games designed to get you what you want while making sure everyone else also gets what they want then this is the hack for you. It’s all about creating a feeling of mutuality, whether it is real or manufactured.
People need to feel like they are valued and important in relationships. It’s just like when my friend Erin needs help with mowing her lawn. We both know she needs healing mowing the lawn, but if I let her paint my toenails first then she’ll feel much better about it.